I wanted to write about Mirjam, in case you dont know her she is the owner of the D/s academy. I have been fortunate enough over the last few weeks to get to more discussions in world then normal. I have been to many different places and enjoyed some interesting talks. One thing stood out to me in all this, and that was Mirjam's dedication.
Mirjam manages to run D/s academy, support exsisting projects, and help new ones get off the ground. She is also a landlady, a friend to anyone who needs one, she writes, holds classes, takes part in community events and many many more things, there is no doubt she is an energetic and talented lady, but here is what stood out to me. She supports every discussion at her sim, I dont think I have ever attended a discussion where she wasnt present, she supports those who speak there, makes sure that the events are well advertised so that the content reaches the maximum possible audience, and she is active in a talk, adding her own thoughts and comments throughout. This is so very rare to see, when a sim gets busy, when it develops and expands so often the simple things, the original goals seem to get lost. Mirjam never forgets why she developed the D/s academy, and she continues to hold it true to its original mission.
Wednesday 6 April 2011
Importance of recieving feedback
I got my first comment today, stops to thank Sir Renzo
It got me thinking and so I went off to get some food and sit in the sunshine while I mulled it over. There is a part in which Sir Renzo comments that this might be seen as a hate blog against Forceme Silverspar. That didnt sit well with me, the thought that people may think that is my intention bothered me, so I took a look at my blog, the posts already in place, I dont think there is anything in them that isnt fair, however I decided to remove the Forceme likes and dislikes maybe my sarcasm is a little on overdrive there.
This blog was inspired by Forceme, her blog moved me to the point I wanted to write about it, to show another side, I am sure she will continue to inspire many more posts, both good and bad. Just because I write though does not mean I do not recognise the good things she does, but in the interest of being more well rounded I will post on other things as well.
I hope people will always feel free to speak out and say what they think, it is only through communication we develop and grow.
Bella
x
It got me thinking and so I went off to get some food and sit in the sunshine while I mulled it over. There is a part in which Sir Renzo comments that this might be seen as a hate blog against Forceme Silverspar. That didnt sit well with me, the thought that people may think that is my intention bothered me, so I took a look at my blog, the posts already in place, I dont think there is anything in them that isnt fair, however I decided to remove the Forceme likes and dislikes maybe my sarcasm is a little on overdrive there.
This blog was inspired by Forceme, her blog moved me to the point I wanted to write about it, to show another side, I am sure she will continue to inspire many more posts, both good and bad. Just because I write though does not mean I do not recognise the good things she does, but in the interest of being more well rounded I will post on other things as well.
I hope people will always feel free to speak out and say what they think, it is only through communication we develop and grow.
Bella
x
Forceme Vs Darius
I debated quite a while before writing this post, let me explain why. The entry is regarding a blog posted by Forceme on 2nd April 2011 titled - Creepy Fella Darius Aldrin
Now at first glance the blog is an outright attack on Darius Aldrin, Darius owns Dominus a BDSM club, academy, and auction house within SL, the blog itself attacks his "no drama" policy, attacks his character, his relationships and his comments on redzone, and in defence of ACES owners.
Bella sighs and thinks here we go again
But in the interest of fairness and making sure I understand I took a look at the comments made on Force's blog by Darius, and took a look at Darius' blog entries concerning Forceme I was saddened by what I found.
Darius runs a good place, while I do not agree with everything he does I find him to have only good intentions. I have found him approachable and helpful whenever I have contacted him, he holds some great events and there are a lot of good people involved in his sim.
However as much as I disagree with Forceme's attempts to defame people through her blog, I have to say that I do not feel Darius' behaviour was acceptable when it comes to sending notes to her Master, auctioning a horse called Forceme, etc etc
When someone attacks us if we respond with jibes, attacks, and hate campaigns does that not make us just as bad?? I disagree with Forceme and her methods in many many ways, I have the right to that opinion and the right to comment on it, but to do the things that have been done in this case smacks of nothing more then bullying. Whilst Forceme may laugh it off, whilst she may post blogs regarding the subject, I find it leaves a sour taste in my mouth. Darius has with support of some individuals lowered himself to this and it just disappoints me.
I took some time to read the comments on Forceme's blog - ACES co founder supports redzone, they were articulate and valid points, everyone having their own view and feeling able to express it. As you have read in previous blogs I dont supportt Forceme's behaviour in regard to the ACES group. I find Jez and Jovial have both conducted themselves well and addressed all of Forceme's attacks with valid and articulate points.
Darius started with this, but then turned it into an attack, a form of bullying, this is sad to see, I hope that Darius realises what he is doing and adjusts his behaviour. Forceme was wrong to attack him, but two wrongs dont make a right and Darius you are better then this, I hope you reconsider your actions.
What is clear to me in all of this is that so much energy is being focused on this battle and I am not sure I understand the point. There are so many good instituations in SL, so much great education, why are we allowing this politics to get in the way????
Now at first glance the blog is an outright attack on Darius Aldrin, Darius owns Dominus a BDSM club, academy, and auction house within SL, the blog itself attacks his "no drama" policy, attacks his character, his relationships and his comments on redzone, and in defence of ACES owners.
Bella sighs and thinks here we go again
But in the interest of fairness and making sure I understand I took a look at the comments made on Force's blog by Darius, and took a look at Darius' blog entries concerning Forceme I was saddened by what I found.
Darius runs a good place, while I do not agree with everything he does I find him to have only good intentions. I have found him approachable and helpful whenever I have contacted him, he holds some great events and there are a lot of good people involved in his sim.
However as much as I disagree with Forceme's attempts to defame people through her blog, I have to say that I do not feel Darius' behaviour was acceptable when it comes to sending notes to her Master, auctioning a horse called Forceme, etc etc
When someone attacks us if we respond with jibes, attacks, and hate campaigns does that not make us just as bad?? I disagree with Forceme and her methods in many many ways, I have the right to that opinion and the right to comment on it, but to do the things that have been done in this case smacks of nothing more then bullying. Whilst Forceme may laugh it off, whilst she may post blogs regarding the subject, I find it leaves a sour taste in my mouth. Darius has with support of some individuals lowered himself to this and it just disappoints me.
I took some time to read the comments on Forceme's blog - ACES co founder supports redzone, they were articulate and valid points, everyone having their own view and feeling able to express it. As you have read in previous blogs I dont supportt Forceme's behaviour in regard to the ACES group. I find Jez and Jovial have both conducted themselves well and addressed all of Forceme's attacks with valid and articulate points.
Darius started with this, but then turned it into an attack, a form of bullying, this is sad to see, I hope that Darius realises what he is doing and adjusts his behaviour. Forceme was wrong to attack him, but two wrongs dont make a right and Darius you are better then this, I hope you reconsider your actions.
What is clear to me in all of this is that so much energy is being focused on this battle and I am not sure I understand the point. There are so many good instituations in SL, so much great education, why are we allowing this politics to get in the way????
Tuesday 5 April 2011
Pot calling the kettle??
Today I thought I would take a look at Forceme's most recent posts maybe there is something interesting, some new sim? some new discussion? something learnt?
Blog- Cheese with that whine? Tuesday 5th April 2011
Forceme goes to new sim opening party (Bella is curious so reads on, and then sighs) so it seems Forceme went along to the party, not a word about the sim, what it is, what goals it has, not a word about the decoration, the people who run it, its potential, instead two paragraphs in Forceme jumps into attack. Does this woman ever go to a party where she dosent pick a fight?
So of course in the interests of this persons privacy and respecting the right for every individual to have an opinon Forceme politely posts the whole conversation on her blog for all to read!
Now I am not defending this girl, I wasnt there, maybe she was being a pain in local chat, maybe she was upsetting everyone, but when was Forceme asked to step in? Forceme was simply a guest at an opening party, she has no stake in the sim, no ownership of the land, no involvement at all. To take if further who is "everyone"? How does Forceme know that anyone other then herself is getting irratated by this girls comments?? If she was causing an issue on the sim then it is the sim owners job to ask her to quiet down, it is the sim owner who can boot someone who is damaging the atmosphere of the party.
Forceme seems to feel that she is needed to manage everyones behaviour. Perhaps she should consider changing her name to Super Force and buy a cape and putting her underwear on the outside, maybe get into SL Security, or perhaps she should stay out of things that do not concern her.
Blog- Cheese with that whine? Tuesday 5th April 2011
Forceme goes to new sim opening party (Bella is curious so reads on, and then sighs) so it seems Forceme went along to the party, not a word about the sim, what it is, what goals it has, not a word about the decoration, the people who run it, its potential, instead two paragraphs in Forceme jumps into attack. Does this woman ever go to a party where she dosent pick a fight?
So of course in the interests of this persons privacy and respecting the right for every individual to have an opinon Forceme politely posts the whole conversation on her blog for all to read!
Now I am not defending this girl, I wasnt there, maybe she was being a pain in local chat, maybe she was upsetting everyone, but when was Forceme asked to step in? Forceme was simply a guest at an opening party, she has no stake in the sim, no ownership of the land, no involvement at all. To take if further who is "everyone"? How does Forceme know that anyone other then herself is getting irratated by this girls comments?? If she was causing an issue on the sim then it is the sim owners job to ask her to quiet down, it is the sim owner who can boot someone who is damaging the atmosphere of the party.
Forceme seems to feel that she is needed to manage everyones behaviour. Perhaps she should consider changing her name to Super Force and buy a cape and putting her underwear on the outside, maybe get into SL Security, or perhaps she should stay out of things that do not concern her.
Where did it all go wrong?
I took some time today to reread Forceme's blog, I have read it right through a few times but it has been a while. As I scanned the different posts I felt a sudden wave of sadness I will explain why here
Forceme's profile on blogger
Hello, I'm Forceme Silverspar and I write this blog; I suppose the title gives that away, hmm? I have been in Second Life for a number of years and for the last three years, I have been journeying as a submissive. I know no two people would follow the same road but I hope that in sharing my life with you here, I can open up some of the decisions, choices, problems, the ups and downs, the hurt and happiness, that I come across. I hope you enjoy following my development and rummaging around in my psyche. Feel free to IM me in SL.
Sounds wonderful dosent it, someone exploring, venturing into the unknown world of submission, willing to share their adventures, their thoughts, their emotions., wow what a blog to read!!
There are some brilliant posts as well check out - Subs needs 26th August 2010
Sadly it dosent last, as with alot of things that start out well the blog has become tainted, damaged, where once you got an exciting insight into the world from one womans perspective now all that you see are the bitter rantings of a women who seems to struggle to tolerate even the simplest of conversations.
Is this what second life does to us??
Forceme's profile on blogger
Hello, I'm Forceme Silverspar and I write this blog; I suppose the title gives that away, hmm? I have been in Second Life for a number of years and for the last three years, I have been journeying as a submissive. I know no two people would follow the same road but I hope that in sharing my life with you here, I can open up some of the decisions, choices, problems, the ups and downs, the hurt and happiness, that I come across. I hope you enjoy following my development and rummaging around in my psyche. Feel free to IM me in SL.
Sounds wonderful dosent it, someone exploring, venturing into the unknown world of submission, willing to share their adventures, their thoughts, their emotions., wow what a blog to read!!
There are some brilliant posts as well check out - Subs needs 26th August 2010
Sadly it dosent last, as with alot of things that start out well the blog has become tainted, damaged, where once you got an exciting insight into the world from one womans perspective now all that you see are the bitter rantings of a women who seems to struggle to tolerate even the simplest of conversations.
Is this what second life does to us??
TOS
Linden labs TOS are of course something we all need to adhere to and noone seems to know this better then Forceme Silverspar. Forceme has taken time and sems to have learnt them inside out, back to front, and upside down.
Bella wonders how many reports Forceme has submitted in her years in sl??
Now TOS are of course important, they protect users, they protect Linden Labs and they help us live our second lives safely but it seems to me that Forceme exploits the TOS for her own personal attacks. Anyone upsetting her needs to make 100% sure they are inside Lindens TOS because she will dig and dig until she finds a valid reason to send a report. Bella wonders once again if Forceme has to much time on her hands.
One of Lindens TOS is hugely important to this blog. Linden states you may not share private conversations, it is a violation of TOS to share ims without the express permission of all people involved. Fair enough, makes sense, anyone doing it knows that they are breaking TOS.
Now a little while ago disclaimers started appearing in profiles, they go a little something like this
A lot of people saw them and added to their own profiles, most not checking if this was a valid disclaimer or not, turns out it isnt. Oh well, what a pity, never mind. Do you think Forceme felt the same? Oh no she dedicated several blogs to the disclaimers and accused those of using them as being stupid, dim witted, etc etc and to add to that she very kindly placed her own disclaimer on her profile
Now then someone who is as fond of TOS as Forceme, someone who dislikes ims being shared, who has I am sure probably hit the million reports mark would respect peoples privacy, or so you would think. Guess what - you would be wrong. It is not violating any TOS to post information outside of Second life and Forceme exploits this fact to its maximum potential, she may not share notecards with logs of ims in world, because that would be wrong, an invasion of privacy etc etc but she is quite happy to post them all over her blog, she is quite happy to slander, to use snippets of conversations she has in world to make any point she wishes in her blog, and this isnt just a one off, this isnt one conversation with one person, if you scroll through her blog this is hundreds of conversations, hundreds of posts. Of course she isnt breaking any rules but..........
Bella questions - double standard much????
Bella wonders how many reports Forceme has submitted in her years in sl??
Now TOS are of course important, they protect users, they protect Linden Labs and they help us live our second lives safely but it seems to me that Forceme exploits the TOS for her own personal attacks. Anyone upsetting her needs to make 100% sure they are inside Lindens TOS because she will dig and dig until she finds a valid reason to send a report. Bella wonders once again if Forceme has to much time on her hands.
One of Lindens TOS is hugely important to this blog. Linden states you may not share private conversations, it is a violation of TOS to share ims without the express permission of all people involved. Fair enough, makes sense, anyone doing it knows that they are breaking TOS.
Now a little while ago disclaimers started appearing in profiles, they go a little something like this
Disclaimer: Chat/IMs may be recorded & shared. This statement releases me from liability as per SL TOS.
A lot of people saw them and added to their own profiles, most not checking if this was a valid disclaimer or not, turns out it isnt. Oh well, what a pity, never mind. Do you think Forceme felt the same? Oh no she dedicated several blogs to the disclaimers and accused those of using them as being stupid, dim witted, etc etc and to add to that she very kindly placed her own disclaimer on her profile
If you have this in your profile or words that mean the same then you are one big DUMBO. Do please understand that LL have no control over non LL servers.
Disclaimer: Chat/IMs may be recorded & shared. This statement releases me from liability as per SL TOS.
Now then someone who is as fond of TOS as Forceme, someone who dislikes ims being shared, who has I am sure probably hit the million reports mark would respect peoples privacy, or so you would think. Guess what - you would be wrong. It is not violating any TOS to post information outside of Second life and Forceme exploits this fact to its maximum potential, she may not share notecards with logs of ims in world, because that would be wrong, an invasion of privacy etc etc but she is quite happy to post them all over her blog, she is quite happy to slander, to use snippets of conversations she has in world to make any point she wishes in her blog, and this isnt just a one off, this isnt one conversation with one person, if you scroll through her blog this is hundreds of conversations, hundreds of posts. Of course she isnt breaking any rules but..........
Bella questions - double standard much????
Monday 4 April 2011
Forceme Vs ACES
It is well known that there is no love lost between Forceme and the co-founders of ACES and hasnt been in the last 12 months, so here is my take on it all
(Point to note this is simply my understanding of it based on what I have read and what I have heard)
So what happened ?? Jovial allegedly used some content from one of Forceme's classes without giving credit to Forceme for it. Jovial has ammended her curriculm so that this is no longer the case and states that this wasnt what happened, or if it did it was accidental. Forceme has since demanded that nobody who hosts her classes posts anything on ACES group and has repeatedly attacked ACES and its founders, Jovial and Jez, on her blog and in world.
A little bit about Jovial
I cannot comment about Jovial using or not using Forceme's material, I was not at the class, therefore I have no right to pass judgement either way. However I do know this. I know Jovial well, I find her to be friendly, caring, intellegent and considered. I know her submissives and they have been with her for a long time and are happy, all of them are intellegent, funny and have a good understanding of the lifestyle so they would not stay with someone who didnt know what they were doing, I also know how she has affected their real lives/first lives which tells me she is a good Mistress. I have watched her support sims, both new and continuing, I have seen her present at many many discussions, I have listened to her voice opinions, ask questions, and give feedback. When approached she is always more then happy to help and offers a kind word and friendship to anyone who asks, she does not judge, she works with many many sims and educators in second life to try and build communication and understanding, she encourages other educators to actively work together and is responsible for forming many bonds between sim owners who at one time were more concerned about keeping their traffic then getting the messages out there. She sees that the way forward within the community is to forge bonds, to realise we are all trying to deliver the same message, that we are all attempting to protect against abuse, and that we all have good intentions and beliefs. She is also not afraid to speak up when she sees something she dosent like, to voice concerns in a constructive manner and to offer help and support to implement change.
Jez I have lesser contact with, but I have found her to be supportive, approachable, she is keen to build events where we all work together, arranges oppurtunities for sim owners to meet, for people to become aware of each others work, and to learn to work together. ACES is a credit to Jez and Jovial and it will I am sure to continue to grow and strengthen, I for one will give my ongoing support.
Forceme
Forceme built up an education programme when Second life really didnt have much in the way of education from a lifestyle perspective, she delivers some amazing classes with some great information in them. She has a knowledge and understanding of BDSM that enables her to offer advice and support to those who seek it, Her classes are well structured and I love the ROPE sessions with the certification at the end of them for those wishing to improve or learn to role play. The classes she delivers should be well respected.
Sadly though Forceme does not like working with other educators, I have never heard to this day a good word from her about another educator. Perhaps she feels ousted from her position since others have started to provide education, perhaps she feels that so many forms of education mean that it cannot be monitored, controlled to ensure the content is good. Perhaps she just dosent like working with others. I have heard stories of her demanding her boards arent placed with ACES boards, it is well known that she wont allow her classes to be posted on the ACES network and she takes every oppurtunity to attack ACES and its co- founders.
In my mind at least, an incident that occured 12 months ago continues to be an issue, it is continually brought up at every oppurtunity when quite frankly everyone else is bored of it and dosent want to hear about it.
If as Forceme claims she just wants good education for all in second life who seek it then surely she would find a way past this, surely she would colaberate with other educators and encourage people to attend lectures she thinks are useful. Isnt the end goal for all to better inform people and protect against abuse????
(Point to note this is simply my understanding of it based on what I have read and what I have heard)
So what happened ?? Jovial allegedly used some content from one of Forceme's classes without giving credit to Forceme for it. Jovial has ammended her curriculm so that this is no longer the case and states that this wasnt what happened, or if it did it was accidental. Forceme has since demanded that nobody who hosts her classes posts anything on ACES group and has repeatedly attacked ACES and its founders, Jovial and Jez, on her blog and in world.
A little bit about Jovial
I cannot comment about Jovial using or not using Forceme's material, I was not at the class, therefore I have no right to pass judgement either way. However I do know this. I know Jovial well, I find her to be friendly, caring, intellegent and considered. I know her submissives and they have been with her for a long time and are happy, all of them are intellegent, funny and have a good understanding of the lifestyle so they would not stay with someone who didnt know what they were doing, I also know how she has affected their real lives/first lives which tells me she is a good Mistress. I have watched her support sims, both new and continuing, I have seen her present at many many discussions, I have listened to her voice opinions, ask questions, and give feedback. When approached she is always more then happy to help and offers a kind word and friendship to anyone who asks, she does not judge, she works with many many sims and educators in second life to try and build communication and understanding, she encourages other educators to actively work together and is responsible for forming many bonds between sim owners who at one time were more concerned about keeping their traffic then getting the messages out there. She sees that the way forward within the community is to forge bonds, to realise we are all trying to deliver the same message, that we are all attempting to protect against abuse, and that we all have good intentions and beliefs. She is also not afraid to speak up when she sees something she dosent like, to voice concerns in a constructive manner and to offer help and support to implement change.
Jez I have lesser contact with, but I have found her to be supportive, approachable, she is keen to build events where we all work together, arranges oppurtunities for sim owners to meet, for people to become aware of each others work, and to learn to work together. ACES is a credit to Jez and Jovial and it will I am sure to continue to grow and strengthen, I for one will give my ongoing support.
Forceme
Forceme built up an education programme when Second life really didnt have much in the way of education from a lifestyle perspective, she delivers some amazing classes with some great information in them. She has a knowledge and understanding of BDSM that enables her to offer advice and support to those who seek it, Her classes are well structured and I love the ROPE sessions with the certification at the end of them for those wishing to improve or learn to role play. The classes she delivers should be well respected.
Sadly though Forceme does not like working with other educators, I have never heard to this day a good word from her about another educator. Perhaps she feels ousted from her position since others have started to provide education, perhaps she feels that so many forms of education mean that it cannot be monitored, controlled to ensure the content is good. Perhaps she just dosent like working with others. I have heard stories of her demanding her boards arent placed with ACES boards, it is well known that she wont allow her classes to be posted on the ACES network and she takes every oppurtunity to attack ACES and its co- founders.
In my mind at least, an incident that occured 12 months ago continues to be an issue, it is continually brought up at every oppurtunity when quite frankly everyone else is bored of it and dosent want to hear about it.
If as Forceme claims she just wants good education for all in second life who seek it then surely she would find a way past this, surely she would colaberate with other educators and encourage people to attend lectures she thinks are useful. Isnt the end goal for all to better inform people and protect against abuse????
2011 According to Forceme Silverspar
Saturday 26th March - I can hear youuuuuuuuuu
Blog
This blog starts by advising that Forceme has sat squirreling away looking for people to annoy over spy chat, evesdropping, and breaking TOS. Result Forceme checks her TOS then searches for people to attack. Enter Darling Young creator of Quantum hud. Forceme has concerns that Darling Young's product may break TOS, Forceme ims Darling Young and demands answers. Forceme dosent get answers she would like, Forceme buys product to test, Forceme gets into arguement with Darling Young. Forceme reports Darling Young and product to Linden labs for the following
Should do
Forceme is concerned about spy chat devices, Forceme finds spy chat device, Forceme asks creator politely if product is in breach of TOS, if still concerned report to linden labs
Should not
Seek out and attack individual creator, ask cryptic questions, buy product, decide without actual proof that product is in breach of TOS, defame Darling Young and products on own personal web page
Wednesday 23rd March - Is tolerance the best I can do?
Blog
Forceme discusses the subject of tolerance, stating that she is tolerant, and then continues on to say all the things she will not tolerate and suggest that people are sheep, but that she will work on allowing them to be sheep in the future.
Bellas thoughts
Forceme needs to ask herself when she has been tolerant as she advises others to be. I personally cannot recall a single occassion, but she may have more luck. Before attempting to be more then tolerant perhaps she should work on actual TOLERANCE
Thursday 17th February - Janine thank you for your comment
Blog
Forceme starts with the most amazing line "I am quite open minded, I think. However I am not open minded" haha
ok this post is to do with Redzone, it is one of many, despite Forceme advising several times "This is my last word" it never seems to be
The blog goes on to state that Redzone should (in forceme's opinion) be removed, and to attack educational group ACES and its two founders Jovial and JeZeBeLe Dagger
Bella's thoughts - Has Forceme nothing better to do? If you dont like a programme introduced, report it stating your reasons then let Linden the people whose company it is and who are paid to do so deal with it. With regard to another attack on Jovial and Jezebele I wasnt aware they were not allowed to state their own opinions, I will inform them to start using duct tape immediately!
Seems to me if you disagree with Forceme then you are wrong in her eyes and not only will she think you are wrong she will openly attack and slander you in her blog.
Tuesday 15th February - Right or wrong
Blog - a cartoon questioning morals of Redzone
Bella's thoughts - Forceme has to much time on her hands
Monday 14th February - ACES co founder supports Redzone use
Blog - Forceme attacks ACES co founders Jovial and JeZeBeLe Dagger
Bella's thoughts - I will write a seperate post regarding ACES, does Forceme not realise that today is valentines day- so much for sharing the love
Wednesday 9th February - My final word on Redzone
Blog - more about Redzone with an added bitching session about ACES for those who didnt already know her feelings about them
Bella's thoughts - If only it really was your final word! my head wouldnt ache from so much bitching
Dictionary definition of Final
- conclusive or decisive: a final decision.
Friday 4th February - Devitios Frostwych founder of The Syndicate
Blog Starts with Forceme stating "I ain't mad with this fella, I ain't upset or angry or pissed "
Bella's Thoughts - 2681 words later she sounds pretty pissed to me
Bella also notes - alot of blogs around this time, wonder if Forceme suffers bad PMS
Thursday 3rd February - So here's the story......
Blog content - ok basically Forceme has recieved information 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th hand about 2 people she has never met and dosent know. Forceme recieves said information on a notecard containing a conversation she has no way of verifying. Said information is apparentely from one of the parties of the recently seperated couple about the other person. Forceme decides she should get involved. Forceme attempts to get person removed from their role, and banned from the sim. When owner of sim advises Forceme that she does not know the full story or the characters of either party Forceme uses blog to slam decison
Bella's thoughts - Forceme should mind her business. If Forceme is concerned raise it to Sim Owner and trust his judgement. Forceme needs to find new things to do
Thursday 27th January - How not to keep your dignity
Blog content - Someone in second life was going through a difficult time and posted about it in a group advising their sim was closing and the reasons why. Forceme decides to im said person simply because she was in her own words "being nosey" and gives unwanted advice about sharing information, said person advices that they were upset and thanks Forceme for concern, Forceme points out that she wasnt concerned and was just being nosey
Bella's thoughts - Forceme takes the time to question someone obviously going through some pain and upset, upsetting them further, then rebuffs their polite response. The title of the blog "how not to keep your dignity" is more then a little condesending especially from someone who shares every arguement, troule and thought with the world, not caring how those words affect other people. Perhaps Forceme thinks her arguements are more important. Bella wonders does Forceme intentionally hurt people for fun or is she seriously that emotionally stunted?????
Wednesday 26th January - How not to launch a new place
Blog - Forceme recieves a group invite to a new venue, instead of behaving like a normal person and either simply accepting or declining Forceme checks persons picks, Forceme feels the need to contact manager demanding why she is being spammed and asking if she realises it is against TOS to send unsolicated group invites. (Bella sighs and wonders if Forceme wrote TOS she is so protective of them) Forceme mutes manager of new venue and then reports to Linden labs for abuse of TOS. Forceme decides to visit venue for further confrontation and bickering which Forceme then uses in her blog
Bella's thoughts - Perhaps Forceme was a) bored b) suffering PMS c) likes drama d) had nothing to write about and needed a confrontation e) feels that her opinions and thoughts are needed by all people who own venues in second life. Bella yawns
Monday 24th January - Hands off my blue squares!!
Blog content - Started as a rather interesting blog about experiments on collective behaviour, degenerates into Forceme attacking another person for stealing her blue squares, said person attempts to lighten it all, what started as a bit of fun and games quickly becomes an assault on this persons morals
Bella's thoughts - Wonders about Forceme's own morals, is it right to attack another human beings entire moral system based on the fact they stole a 5 linden square in a game????
Blog
This blog starts by advising that Forceme has sat squirreling away looking for people to annoy over spy chat, evesdropping, and breaking TOS. Result Forceme checks her TOS then searches for people to attack. Enter Darling Young creator of Quantum hud. Forceme has concerns that Darling Young's product may break TOS, Forceme ims Darling Young and demands answers. Forceme dosent get answers she would like, Forceme buys product to test, Forceme gets into arguement with Darling Young. Forceme reports Darling Young and product to Linden labs for the following
- Harassment > Defaming indivuals or groups
- Harassment > Soliciting/inciting others to violate ToS
- Fraud > L$
Should do
Forceme is concerned about spy chat devices, Forceme finds spy chat device, Forceme asks creator politely if product is in breach of TOS, if still concerned report to linden labs
Should not
Seek out and attack individual creator, ask cryptic questions, buy product, decide without actual proof that product is in breach of TOS, defame Darling Young and products on own personal web page
Wednesday 23rd March - Is tolerance the best I can do?
Blog
Forceme discusses the subject of tolerance, stating that she is tolerant, and then continues on to say all the things she will not tolerate and suggest that people are sheep, but that she will work on allowing them to be sheep in the future.
Bellas thoughts
Forceme needs to ask herself when she has been tolerant as she advises others to be. I personally cannot recall a single occassion, but she may have more luck. Before attempting to be more then tolerant perhaps she should work on actual TOLERANCE
Thursday 17th February - Janine thank you for your comment
Blog
Forceme starts with the most amazing line "I am quite open minded, I think. However I am not open minded" haha
ok this post is to do with Redzone, it is one of many, despite Forceme advising several times "This is my last word" it never seems to be
The blog goes on to state that Redzone should (in forceme's opinion) be removed, and to attack educational group ACES and its two founders Jovial and JeZeBeLe Dagger
Bella's thoughts - Has Forceme nothing better to do? If you dont like a programme introduced, report it stating your reasons then let Linden the people whose company it is and who are paid to do so deal with it. With regard to another attack on Jovial and Jezebele I wasnt aware they were not allowed to state their own opinions, I will inform them to start using duct tape immediately!
Seems to me if you disagree with Forceme then you are wrong in her eyes and not only will she think you are wrong she will openly attack and slander you in her blog.
Tuesday 15th February - Right or wrong
Blog - a cartoon questioning morals of Redzone
Bella's thoughts - Forceme has to much time on her hands
Monday 14th February - ACES co founder supports Redzone use
Blog - Forceme attacks ACES co founders Jovial and JeZeBeLe Dagger
Bella's thoughts - I will write a seperate post regarding ACES, does Forceme not realise that today is valentines day- so much for sharing the love
Wednesday 9th February - My final word on Redzone
Blog - more about Redzone with an added bitching session about ACES for those who didnt already know her feelings about them
Bella's thoughts - If only it really was your final word! my head wouldnt ache from so much bitching
Dictionary definition of Final
- conclusive or decisive: a final decision.
Friday 4th February - Devitios Frostwych founder of The Syndicate
Blog Starts with Forceme stating "I ain't mad with this fella, I ain't upset or angry or pissed "
Bella's Thoughts - 2681 words later she sounds pretty pissed to me
Bella also notes - alot of blogs around this time, wonder if Forceme suffers bad PMS
Thursday 3rd February - So here's the story......
Blog content - ok basically Forceme has recieved information 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th hand about 2 people she has never met and dosent know. Forceme recieves said information on a notecard containing a conversation she has no way of verifying. Said information is apparentely from one of the parties of the recently seperated couple about the other person. Forceme decides she should get involved. Forceme attempts to get person removed from their role, and banned from the sim. When owner of sim advises Forceme that she does not know the full story or the characters of either party Forceme uses blog to slam decison
Bella's thoughts - Forceme should mind her business. If Forceme is concerned raise it to Sim Owner and trust his judgement. Forceme needs to find new things to do
Thursday 27th January - How not to keep your dignity
Blog content - Someone in second life was going through a difficult time and posted about it in a group advising their sim was closing and the reasons why. Forceme decides to im said person simply because she was in her own words "being nosey" and gives unwanted advice about sharing information, said person advices that they were upset and thanks Forceme for concern, Forceme points out that she wasnt concerned and was just being nosey
Bella's thoughts - Forceme takes the time to question someone obviously going through some pain and upset, upsetting them further, then rebuffs their polite response. The title of the blog "how not to keep your dignity" is more then a little condesending especially from someone who shares every arguement, troule and thought with the world, not caring how those words affect other people. Perhaps Forceme thinks her arguements are more important. Bella wonders does Forceme intentionally hurt people for fun or is she seriously that emotionally stunted?????
Wednesday 26th January - How not to launch a new place
Blog - Forceme recieves a group invite to a new venue, instead of behaving like a normal person and either simply accepting or declining Forceme checks persons picks, Forceme feels the need to contact manager demanding why she is being spammed and asking if she realises it is against TOS to send unsolicated group invites. (Bella sighs and wonders if Forceme wrote TOS she is so protective of them) Forceme mutes manager of new venue and then reports to Linden labs for abuse of TOS. Forceme decides to visit venue for further confrontation and bickering which Forceme then uses in her blog
Bella's thoughts - Perhaps Forceme was a) bored b) suffering PMS c) likes drama d) had nothing to write about and needed a confrontation e) feels that her opinions and thoughts are needed by all people who own venues in second life. Bella yawns
Monday 24th January - Hands off my blue squares!!
Blog content - Started as a rather interesting blog about experiments on collective behaviour, degenerates into Forceme attacking another person for stealing her blue squares, said person attempts to lighten it all, what started as a bit of fun and games quickly becomes an assault on this persons morals
Bella's thoughts - Wonders about Forceme's own morals, is it right to attack another human beings entire moral system based on the fact they stole a 5 linden square in a game????
Day one
Day one
I took some time today to scroll through Forceme's blog, I have at one time or another read every single entry posted there, today I was simply scanning. The name of Forceme's blog is "forceme Silverspar adventures in second life" so lets see how many are about adventures and learning, and how many are simply oppurtunities for a rant.
In 2011 so far
Useful Blogs - intellegent well thought out useful and interesting adventures
16
Excuse to bitch or attack
21
I could go back and list 2010 and 2009 at some point I probably will, if I dont get shut down first, but for now this will do to start with.
My first and most obvious thought to Forceme's blog is if my second life annoyed me so much I would quite simply leave. We all have enough annoyances in real life (first life) why on earth would we stay in a place that seems only to provide us with more??
My second thought is I actually find this rather sad, especially as sometimes the blogs start out with a good point, for example the day Forceme and friend took time to visit Gor sims to gain a better understanding, interesting, insightful, fun, then oh no here comes the bitching.
So Forceme, or perhaps a better name would be Forceyou this is my tribute to you, a look at your second life through anothers eyes. I am sure I will be reported to blogger and my blog removed, but maybe just maybe you will take the time to read first and see that there are other opinions just as valid as yours, that not all things are seen through blinkers, and that you cannot force all to believe the things you do.
More then likely you will just write about it on your blog in another of your famous bitch and whine sessions, but one thing for sure I had a lot of fun writing this
Bella
Why I decided to blog
I am a huge fan of bloggers, I love reading them, I enjoy learning different perspectives, opinions and thoughts. I also adore writting, mostly I write for pleasure, whatever thought comes into my head and wont go away I add to my blogs and attempt at least to make some sense of it all. This though is all new to me, this blog is going to be very different to others I have written in the past and that is down to one woman.
I have been a member of second life for many years. I am extremely active within the BDSM community, the roleplay community, and within the educational areas of second life. I write here under a different name, I do so as the person who inspired this blog is known to be rather vindictive when crossed and I have no wish to bring that into my second life experience.
This blog was inspired as I sat reading page after page of her complaints and attacks on other people, their thoughts, their values, their behaviours, what started as an interesting, educational, and funny blog, has become her personal bitching page, or as she would refer to it the place she can "her bitch and whine"
The saddest thing is that this woman is intellegent, articulate, and has a humourous side, however her claws are long, and she does not consider who she might be hurting with her words. In her mind her opinion is right and noody else has a right to speak up against her, if they do then they end up attacked in every aspect of their second life.
So here is my blog, it is by no means as articulate, it probably isnt always very sensible, I am sure that when she hears about it Forceme will attempt to slur it, and more then likely get shut down, however for now I write, its time people saw a different side.
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